There is Always a Way

betternikki said: I’m with Melissa. Our opposite sex friends are mutual friends.

Mark has some girl friends that I don’t really know. But, don’t really get the opportunity to. But, they aren’t “close” friends…just old acquaintances. And same with me.
But, the people we are close with, we are both close with.

bensjourneyforlife said: Yeah, even my (now) ex-wife says I’m a great guy. Yet somehow I’m single?

lol…apparently you just haven’t found the right one!

sabbyrunsatl said: Yes, I do think as we age we understand the magnitude of attraction is actually quite small and how it’s very easy to generate it with your own mind.

Well said.

clevcrew answered: this is a mega debate in our house…. hubs and i do not see eye to eye. I think yes, he thinks no….

I agree with you…obviously ;)

backto100miles answered: Definitely friends. My best friends are women and we’re all just fine with no issues. :)

See? All good. :)

chelsearuns replied to your photoset: 3 miles 30:35 10:12 pace I am just getting slower…

Awesome moms that cook awesome food don’t need to worry about running paces :) my tummy growled at the sight of your dinner!

You are just so sweet :-)

273pounds replied to your post: Random Wednesday

The TARDIS rents out movies now???

lol :)

sabbyrunsatl answered: Friends. I’ve got several. As I age the issue of attractions weakens because I can not let my mind go there.

This make sense. And do you think it is because as we get older we realize there is more important things in relationships other than attraction?  

sjmarathon2012 answered: I think it goes both ways. The guy I am currently dating was my running partner and for months I swore we were “just friends”. lol

Yeah, there are definitely times when friends turns in to something else. Hopefully when the two people are single! lol  And I am a firm believer that the best relationships start out as friends.

happyhealthycook said: I think men and women can be friends. However, I also believe I should not be *close* friends with any man unless he is also close friends with Steve. No exceptions. I expect the same of Steve and any women in our life. It’s both of us or neither.

This makes sense. And you should live an open book life when you have a partner. Well, I believe you should live an open book life…any time!

snapthistiger answered: the friendship must be mutually understood for it to work. imo.

For sure!

carolynruns answered: I’ve always thought that people who subscribed to the H/S thing were either immature or shallow.

That is definitely a factor. :)

trivialbob said: Yes they can be just friends. Most women I’m friends with are CRAZY attracted to me. It’s a burden I live with but I set boundaries and it all works out OK.

Bob, wait….you know that I am CRAZY attracted to you?? Crap.

runrunningrunner said: Yes. I’ve always had girl friends ( not meaning girlfriends).And sometimes it might get complicated … but now with the fab Mrs RRR, I have marriage and my girls very much at the front of my mind. And I still have great girl friends.

A fab Mrs. RRR always helps :)

turtleseyeview answered: I have several guy friends, one who I am quite close with. It’s fine. There is no intent for anything else on either side, so we’re good.

Close guy friends can be a good thing. I have usually had more guy friends than girls. Right now in my life I probably have more close girl friends than I have ever had.

becky-balances said: I think it really depends on the parties involved, when it comes down to it.

It most definitely comes down to the parties involved. The whole “can girls and guys be friends?” question is way too inclusive. There definitely isn’t a yes or no answer…only “it depends”.

high-heel-mileage answered: It definitely needs to be mutually understood. I’ve had way too many “oh, he’s just my friend” that turned into “oh, crap.”

lol…yeah, I have had a few of those in my day;)

bensjourneyforlife said: Most of my friends are female and a coulee of then are exes.

Wow, if you can stay friends with exes, you must be a good guy :P I can’t say I am friends with any of my exes. Well, maybe I would say hi to some of them on the street if I saw them, but I definitely don’t keep in touch.

Can Harry be friends with Sally?  Well, we all know how that movie turned out…oh wait, no I can’t remember. Apparently I need to re watch that one.

I have always been the type of person that can be friends with anyone. I have never really given much thought to age, gender, race, religion, etc. If we have something in common, we will most likely hit it off. I enjoy getting to know people and learning about what makes them tick, what they like, our differences, etc. And of course finding things in common is always fun.

Now, some days, I am not a people person AT ALL. But, other days I marvel in how different we all are and find it very beautiful.

Back to the Harry/Sally thing. Some people believe that guys and girls can not be friends. I just can’t believe that. I mean….it is true at times…but to say they never can, well I hope that isn’t true. 

There is always (not always) going to be an issue of attraction. Either from one side or the other. But, is that good reason to not be friends? Well, I guess that depends on the severity of it. And that you need to figure out on your own.

I have lost good friends due to attraction “issues” (if that is even the right word). But, I have kept some despite that fact too. We can’t all be made for each other in that way. But, we can appreciate and enjoy the friendship side.

I am not entirely sure where I am going with all this. It just seems the question of intent always comes up…and I am not sure if it needs to. (unless it REALLY needs to…lol). Maybe I just live in a bubble and enjoy it that way ;) 

What do you think? Guys and girls. Friends or not?

sjmarathon2012 replied to your video: Sabby posted this yesterday. And since I am quite…

There Christmas album is so so good!

I just listened to their 12 Days. Awesome! Definitely not what I expected, lol.

thoughtsfloataround said: I have been postponing our dental check-ups because they always mean lots of money spent!

Yes, we have done the same thing. And ironically it has probably cost us more in the long run…but oh well. We just finished paying off Charly’s visit from last year.
I need to get in to see the dentist, but that will probably be after Nate and Charly are done and then after Aydan and Peyten. So…ya know, in five years!! lol

chelsearuns said: The part about positive splits made me chuckle. You’re my hero for stepping away prime napping and onto the road!!

I’ll sleep when I am dead….or something like that, lol. ;)

high-heel-mileage said: Too funny - I’m reading this while icing my legs almost identically to your photo!

Awesome!!

happyhealthycook said: Glad I could be a motivator. ;) But I totally believe that if you can get yourself out the door (the crap part), you - YOU of all people - can run 3 miles per day EASY. Cake walk. I’m sure the pain will ease up. ;)

Yes, getting out the door is THE MOST difficult part. The 3 miles…yeah, that part is fine once I am out there. I have a route that I have been doing a lot lately that is exactly three miles. It is hard to cut it short since it is so on point ;)
And yes, I think the pain will ease up. The muscles will heal and I will be stronger for it. No worries here!

This isn’t a coffee date. We will call this a hydration date. Kari woke up with a splitting headache. I felt very hungover. Very. But, I didn’t drink AT ALL last night. Not even my one beer. So, yes…obviously I haven’t been drinking enough water. So, no coffee for me this morning. I will just stick to water today.

I am working from the conference room today. So, this is where I will be for the next several hours:

I found my favorite hand cream and of course had to buy some. It was at the hardware store. Go figure.

I used to use this stuff a lot when I worked in kitchens. Between washing hands constantly, bleach, etc and especially in the winter, my hands would get so red, dry, and cracked. This stuff works wonders! So, I will continue to use it even though my hands don’t get as severe as they used to. They still get really dry. My elbows too.

I am wearing my favorite Nike shirt and my favorite sweater today. Ah comfort.

Best four dollars I have spent. I bought these a long time ago and I have gotten a lot of use out of them.

I keep them in a gal ziplock bag and just pull them out whenever I need to ice something. No melting ice/water issues and I just throw the bag back in the freezer when I am done. Ready for next time. And they are more versatile than ice packs, in my opinion.

It’s a red….blue?box. I am so confused.

So sleepy.

With the kids missing the last day of school (no make up), it kind of messed things up. They announced on facebook that the high school kids could come up Mon/Tues and clean out their locker.
But, no word was gotten out about the elementary school. Mark went up today and got Charly’s stuff. Who knows if it was all of it. And we never got word about Charly and summer school…which apparently starts Friday, but we only heard that fact through the grapevine. Mark went up and talked to the office and they knew nothing of it because they don’t deal with summer school.
So, he went to go talk to someone at the high school regarding elementary summer school (yeah), but they had closed already. So, we will try again tomorrow. We have no idea if she is properly signed up or not. She can’t make it Friday anyway because we made plans because we didn’t know when summer school started.

And the dentist. Nate and Charly went to their cleaning appointments last week, which was done when the power was out. The dentist had a generator. They both need to go back for more work. So, I had a nice conversation about that.
Nate has to have more x-rays done. And at least four cavities filled. And Charly has two cavities that need to be filled, plus she made need a spacer.
So, with the cleanings it put the bill at $322.00. And Charly’s next appointment, if she does need the spacer will be around $430.00. And Nate’s appointment should cost around $570.00 dollars….but that # will probably go up once they see more on the x-rays.
And then Nate will need two more appointments after that for who knows what.
Let’s not even think about Aydan and Peyten yet…they are going to have to wait a little bit!

Work is almost done. I am going to go home, change, and head up to Nate’s baseball game. Where I am going to sit and not move for quite a long time. It will be nice to just be able to focus on his game and that is it without the little kids running around.

I plan to run later after the game ;)